Kerry, I will be fine $$-wise. Just stressing over my job...superintendent says this will be the year he may have to cut staff, and that was at a meeting last week BEFORE our tax levy vote failed....Dan owes me for February so I should get his check this week. I hate reminding him...but hey I need the money! Also need to start a real budget... OK I know I do it just isn't as fun for me as organizing and labeling stuff.
So I had my front brakes redone Tuesday. They were squeaking, so I got them fixed. Then, not long after (in BBJ time, maybe it was long after) I heard squeaking again. I thought, "Surely not! I just had them fixed? Must be that car behind me..."
Lo and behold they stopped squeaking...apparently that is a bad thing! So I got the pads and rotors replaced at the dealership where my dad works. Got employee pricing so it wasn't too bad...
Then last night Dan brought the kids back from being at his parent's (it was his night). He asked if he could come down and look at the tile he bought. I said fine. He came down and there was water on the laundry floor...the hot water heater is broken! Granted it was 23 years old...
So he went into hubby mode and got towels, dried it up, turned off the hot water supply etc. I told him he could go, I would handle it. I told him I would buy a water heater tonight after work.
So, at 10 am I get a text--he went and bought a water heater and is bringing it over and dropping it off later. Wtf? I told him I would take care of it...so I will write him a check for it, I don't want pity purchases. I also called and hired a plumber to come install it so that is taken care of. Sigh...
Oh and biggest surprise to me...
I got an email from my atty today. Apparently the case proceeds here regardless? We hit the certain number of days I guess so my atty went and filed for a "Trial Scheduling Conference". In 3 weeks my atty and Dan will have a phone conference to set a trial date unless Dan signs the papers before then...
Ha Ha Kerry...actually Dan noticed water leaking from the washer too, it needs a new hose. So that could be 3...
I am just still in shock, honestly, about the email from my atty...I didn't know they could schedule a trial conference without talking to me first. Just took me by surprise.
Oh and also my uncle (mom's brother) who has been battling cancer for almost two years is back in the hospital. He is one of the two siblings we had the benefit for back in August. He has infection in his blood, fever, dehydration, scans show new spots in a couple of different areas, etc. Can't do chemo because he is sick.
They asked him yesterday 'how he wanted this to end'. He said, 'I want to win'. That does not appear to be an option. And it isn't what they meant when they asked him, they meant let go and ride it out or fight till he is out of time...
Sorry to hear about your Uncle.... it sucks.... I lost my dad to cancer in 2001.
On another note, ARE YOU CRAZY... if Dan paid for the water heater ..... please say "Thank You" and move on.
He would not do it if he could not afford it.
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too
Kerry I will check that out later, can't open it at school.
I forwarded Dan the trial scheduling notice I got and included a few details about options.
He replied back that he would get the papers from the lawyer and get them back to me....so apparently somewhere along the line he did get a lawyer?
So it appears he will comply an avoid the need for a trial. I should be glad that the end is in sight but I am just disappointed. Guess you were right, John. A part of me was hoping there would be a last-second "Hail Mary" and he would ask me not to follow through...
But it is better to be released from someone who does not want to be with me, ultimately there will be a man who will...and until then I can take care of me and enjoy my kids. Just have to remember that...
Bad week all around...Superfox will keep rising, she just needs to lick a couple of wounds first...
I just cannot deal with this day any longer. I got a msg from MIL to call her when I had a chance, that was at 8 this morning. Just called and she wants to know if I have been talking to Dan's grandpa.
Apparently he is VERY angry at HER and won't talk to her and she thinks it has something to do with ME?
Wtf. The batchitt doesn't fall far from the tree...
She wants to know if I have been talking to Grandpa, I said yes I talked to him at Christmas time, he called and visited. She asked if I told him anything about Dan and I being separated, I said no but I didn't think it should be considered a secret anyway because it is the way things are...
She said she tries not to give them details about things because she doesn't want to upset them. I told her they should be upset at Dan anyway, not her, but I didn't have any idea why he was mad and she would have to figure it out herself.
She said, Well he won't even talk to me. I said, that is too bad....
GEEZ....wtf people. I cannot control the world! I have been talking to Uncle Bob, Dan's uncle and Grandpa's son, MIL's brother. He tells me all the time I am his favorite niece over Dan's two sisters...and he cannot stand MIL even though she is his sister.
I never told Bob about the affairs but I DID tell him Dan moved out last January. I am not going to sling mud but I am not going to lie about things, either...he probably told his dad (Grandpa) and now Grandpa is mad bc I bet MIL has been lying to him this whole time and acting like we are still together. Not my problem!
OK I know I do it just isn't as fun for me as organizing and labeling stuff. 
I heard squeaking again. I thought, "Surely not! I just had them fixed? Must be that car behind me..." 
That does not appear to be an option. And it isn't what they meant when they asked him, they meant let go and ride it out or fight till he is out of time...