Do I say to D13, I have not given up hope for mom and I to get back together which the very thought of having to be back in the same house with mom tears up D13. Or do I somewhat lie and say "yes, it is over and we are going to get divorced" in order to help her move on.
I am so angry with my W for doing this to our family, to our kids. I want to let her have it, but know I can't and it that is not part of who I am anymore. I wish I could let her know the level of pain she is causing.
I think that now is a good time to really understand how to be the best you that you can be....
Think back to when you were her age. Being angry is all part of being a teenager. And then try to understand the raging emotions of being a hormonal girl ( which I assume you have very little experience at ).
Then throw all of this onto that fire, and it gets pretty messy.
WE may be YOUR support group, but you have to be theirs through this.
You want to be the memory today that you want them to have tomorrow......
And regardless of HOW you feel, or tell them......what you SHOW to them will remain the differance.
IF you are all over the map, then they will be as well....
Does this suck ? Yes, but only to the point you let it suck...
Is it fair ? Who told you life was fair ?
Be a rock for them, and sometimes, being a rock means that you can admit that you don't have the answers.....and you can find a way together through this.
Too much info for them may not be the way to go either....
This isn't their path to walk, it is yours.....
These answers have to come from you my friend.....
And they ARE inside of you....
I just know that showing your children that anger is not what you want from this.....
Find a punching bag. or something comparable to that....
Lord knows I have hung a Lab Coat on my fair share....
Keep enough anger to shield yourself against the bullchitt that you will encounter throughout this path....
Use it as a sword ? Not unless you want to die by the sword...
BTW.....Your daughters councelor ? Is she trying to help your daughter ? Or diagnose your wife.....
