Wife wants best of both worlds

[Cie la vie]

DW,

Hope you are hanging tough. I strongly believe I will be right where you are now in about three to six months. I went back and ready your original post in newcomers to get a better feel on the timeline of your sitch.

Has your W ever wavered in her decision to get D? At anytime was she truly open to discussions around working on the marriage?

I ignored my W's pleas in spring 09 to seek marriage counseling and her desire for me to seek treatment for what she preceived as an alcohol problem in me. The rest is history.

I think it was Sandi who said the success rate in here is not so good with stopping D for going through. Quite discouraging to say the least.

Wishing you the best.