Dear Talia, Sounds like you are doing great. I just met with L (will post shortly) and it was worth it to know I am going to right route..really just clarified what I already thought/knew, but again was worth it to leave no stone unturned. That helps in the moving on process itself and makes me feel stronger when I approach husband.
I am starting to think of this all as a parallel process. You deal w the moving on and healing (and separating emotional from legal/practical imp't too).
Where are you in your D process? Has your H filed? How are you thinking of D itself now compared to where you were when he first left?
Oh and re: dating, it's when your ready and small steps like flirting/casual chatting when you go out can't hurt. I posted a little about this on TTA's site and over time I've gotten more comfortable w it. When I was home going out a lot and having fun over the holdidays/few dates, I did not think about H at all...which was a nice break. Plus it helps get the confidence/mojo back up. But when you're ready, no rush. My IC last Spring kept challenging me to do it...pushing me almost in a way that didn't feel yet right for me. But a few months later I was ok w it (I mean - H certainly wasn't shy about doing it himself, and telling me!), and then have been proactively telling friends to set me up lately, and some have.
All in time...sounds like you've got the other activities and hobbies going well. Good job! I feel like staying busy and keeping up the distractions is the most helpful. Take care, hhh
