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[avermont]

Thanks, pearl and newmama.

There is a snowball's chance in hell that he would say 'fine, keep it!'. Let's see...snowball is snow...hell is hot. Not gonna happen.

Pearl, your advice is dead on. I am just in childish, reactive, I don't wanna! mode.
I want the house because I put work into it, too. I love the neighborhood.
But I also mainly don't want OW in it. So that is keeping the focus on OW and not on me.

Here is a truth I say all the time, that I should actually listen to:

I say to myself, since X isn't there to listen: X, if this had gone down any other way. If you had come to me 6 months ago, a year ago, whenever you realized how unhappy you were, and we had TALKED. And TRIED. And if I had had a chance to TRY. And if it didn't work out, after good faith effort on both our parts, I would gladly hand the house over to you. You put so much more into it than I did. Even though I know a lot of what you put into it was to make a loving home for US. Us didn't work out, despite our best efforts, so I can walk away.

So clearly, my response to the house is situational.

What does that mean, Dr. Freud??