If your W is the one stepping outside the M with this ex of hers, why should you be the one to leave the house? If my H suggests I and/or the kids move out b/c he wants out of our M, he can stick that plan someplace dark and unpleasant! I'm not sure if you want to return to the house, since this whole process is obviously very hard on your boys. But I think it is important for a WAS to be the one who actually walks away. And I would also emphasize that the children need stability so they get to live in their home regardless of which adult is leaving or has left. They don't need to be juggled around.
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They needed space, they were not happy and me being there was not helping the situation.
Did she mean herself and the OM? Or herself and the kids? Because if she and the OM need space she can go find it elsewhere. Not your problem. And I don't think she can make a blanket statement including the idea that the boys need you gone or need space either.
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I acnowledge that I havnt been the best husband
OK, throw this out a window.
We are never the best spouse we could possibly be. You may have made mistakes; good you've passed the test and you're a human being. That doesn't justify her actions.
Have you gotten DB or DR yet? I highly recommend it. Hang in there!
undefeated 24 H 24 S's 4, 2, 1 M 5 yrs
"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." ~Dale Carnegie
