there have been several times IMHO that H has tried to reach out, but luv continued to have bitterness attached to her and I feel several times she lost an opportunity to reconnect.

Rob, the other thing is, everything he is doing is by the book. he's acting EXACTLY like my H did. I changed myself because I'm the only person I can change. just like luv's sitch, and like your own, but when you DO change yourself, then the whole sitch changes and the other person changes. it's not guaranteed that your M will be saved, but your chances are greatly improved if you follow Michelles great advice.

it doesn't matter what he's doing, because all that is just a symptom of his pain. But it matters what LUV will do. and the more consistent she is, the better chance she has. And that's what we want to see, is her to DB as consistently as she can.

sorry, I'm watching kids, so I can't quite focus on this entirely, as I'm playing Hi Ho cherryo at the same time. lol

Me 33 H 34 S9 S3
M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs)
EA/PA 1/2006
DB 5/2006
H wants D 6/2006
H wants ME 8/2006
H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006
H erased OW off phone! 2/2007

"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."