start taking him for granted, even if it's just acting on your part because I know how emotionally invested you are in all of this, start ignoring him.
Rob, again, this is MHO, but I feel I need to point these things out. I also believe that your input is partially good, but it's the way you are presenting it.
she doesn't want to "ignore" her husband. she needs to still be a considerate person, not a rude person. But she can "ignore" by just enjoying her life and not chase him anymore. she can be busy when he calls, and she can call back later, or she just goes about her day in a fun way because she's learning to enjoy her life.
and taking him for granted? I'm not sure why you are using these terms either. so I think maybe I'm just misunderstanding what your trying to get her to do.
Read her thread, she has posted umpteen examples of the fact that he believes she'll always be there, never telling her he loves her, not responding to calls or texts, not telling her he loves her, never taking her feelings into consideration.
I'm assuming she's posting her story on this forum because her marriage is "in the ground" not because it's awesome and perfect.
