So yes, start limiting the sex, "I'm too tired tonight" "I have a headache" "I don't feel like it"
unless you want to push your M further in the ground.
you want your H to see you as a light, not as more of what would make him unhappy. If you want to limit sex, by all means, that is fine if that is a boundary you want to set.
IMHO, if he does initiate, which at this moment, I'm assuming he won't be, I would say, "I would love to, and when you are ready to recommit to working on the marriage just let me know" and in the meantime, you need to treat yourself and act like your the sexiest woman on earth and he's just not allowed to touch you yet. do not act like your sick, or giving an excuse. act like he should be dying to do it with you, but you are busy with your life that you are making great, and as soon as he wants to be a part of it, then you'll love to get it on.
Yes I have, and talking about working the relationship is a big no no, I think it's in the book too ;-)
Listen to reality, you want a man to react with positive changes to his wife, you do what all the WAW's have done to the husbands that are posting on this site - fear of loss works, that is reality, you're not going to get to him and get him to change by doing what you've done and saying things like:
"I would love to, and when you are ready to recommit to working on the marriage just let me know"
- you've proven this with 90+ pages on your thread to date.
