So yes, start limiting the sex, "I'm too tired tonight" "I have a headache" "I don't feel like it"
unless you want to push your M further in the ground.
you want your H to see you as a light, not as more of what would make him unhappy. If you want to limit sex, by all means, that is fine if that is a boundary you want to set.
IMHO, if he does initiate, which at this moment, I'm assuming he won't be, I would say, "I would love to, and when you are ready to recommit to working on the marriage just let me know" and in the meantime, you need to treat yourself and act like your the sexiest woman on earth and he's just not allowed to touch you yet. do not act like your sick, or giving an excuse. act like he should be dying to do it with you, but you are busy with your life that you are making great, and as soon as he wants to be a part of it, then you'll love to get it on.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
