Just scared of what comes next!

[kissak]

I agree to doing that in the past. Definitely! He would leave her and be back with me within days. Many times I did this. It never worked and I knew why.

This time however I know the OW is not a problem. It has been 18 months since they last split. He did not ask to come back home until over a year later. The OW has been remarried and divorce in that time and basically has little contact with my H except in passing when at the ems/fire building where she works and he volunteers. He really wont even go there when she is there. He cant stand to really be in the same room with her anymore. She is cold to him and will ignore him most times. SO, I do not see her a problem with us reconciling this time. For the first time we can see where things are going to go without having to worry about that. I believe he has gone through that withdrawal over the past year. I watched him go through it. Brought back memories of my own pain when he left me. Not exactly the same, and I probably shouldnt care about his hurt when she dumped him, but I knew it hurt him.

He does know that she needs to be out of the picture for us to even begin working on things. I know he wouldnt have asked to come home back in October if he knew she was still a factor.

OK, enough about the OW. She is gone for good and has been for 18 months now!! One reason he said he did think about me so much and wanted to come home was because I was always there for him. That I never left him and was always there to listen. His other friends had all left him and werent dependable when he needed them. I however have always tried to be his friend, even when I didnt feel like it.