Fast track to her divorcing me

[dday101798]

She has no clue what it is going to be like to be D. Maybe after you are D for a while she might realize that you were not the cause of all her problems. Right now it is easier to blame you.

Exactamundo!

see, I did the same thing, tried to be (x)W's friend and be there. Yeah it's a bit different as we have younger kids together and had to mantain contact (however possible) due to them.

But, once I stopped that, and let her live life with her choices and without me, she'd come crawling back for more from me. And I'd give in each time until the last. I became the WAS and her the LBS. And, the rest is history.