and I forgot to mention, you can't just backslide when you start seeing that he pursues you (and he will eventually), and another thing, the sex.... I think you knew I was going to mention this eventually, I don't know what the frequency is between you & your hubby but I get the impression that when he wants sex, you give it to him because he starves you emotionally and having sex with him for those 5 glorious minutes gives you a small connection (because you miss feeling loved so much that you'll take whatever scraps are given).
So yes, start limiting the sex, "I'm too tired tonight" "I have a headache" "I don't feel like it"
You may ask how long you have to keep all of this up and I know it's going to suck when I tell you this but I would probably say several months. You've invested 93 pages on this thread and a similar amount of time if not longer in what doesn't work, why not invest the same energy or more into something that does work.
You don't have to, I can't make you but I would like to see you turn this around, I'm hoping you'll give it a fair chance.
