Just a thought on the mom sitch...I have always had issues with my mom. We have never been close, probably because we have similar temperaments. I was a bit apprehensive when I moved back to Seattle from SF because we would be 20 minutes apart. But I limited my contact to the phone and really only saw my parents a few times a year. Now I know that's terrible to some people but it worked for me. I just wanted to point out that you can have and enforce boundaries even if you're living in close proximity.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
