luvless I copied this from cesco's thread, - we spoke the other day, he's expecting a card or gift from you, you will shock him if you don't do anything, he will start to get the hint that you are starting to pull away.
Do what works, stop following your feelings, your feelings have given you the results you rec'd to date and none to successful, be disciplined, follow the plan we discussed the other day. Start with a small taste of fear of loss, you can do it and if you want to be successful with your situation, you need to start doing what works.
Luv I want to help you but you have to let me help you, you see that your husband still takes you for granted, start taking him for granted, even if it's just acting on your part because I know how emotionally invested you are in all of this, start ignoring him.
Do you know why you need to start ignoring him? Look at the effect it has on you when he does it to you. You may answer "but he's different, he wouldn't be bothered if I stopped calling or texting", and I'm going to tell you that you might be right, he might not be bothered at all. But to rule it out, let's test it, not just for a day or two, let's go for a week or two or heck maybe a month.
He won't notice it at first, you are 100% right.
But after a week, he'll think to himself, "that's weird, she's always bothering me with texts and phone calls and BLAH BLAH BLAH", then the 2nd week will roll by and his mind will register that something is missing. And then he'll get interested, "why did she stop calling & texting me?" During this time, you will be happy, life is good, life is awesome, life is a precious thing to waste and so is wasting time & effort in someone who won't reciprocate love & attention to you when this is what you offer him. He will no doubt ask after the first, second or third week, "I've noticed that you're not calling or texting as much anymore, what's up" and you will just smile because Rob told you it would work (LOL!) and you will smile because you have removed something that he took for granted.... your attention.
Continue pulling back, continue pulling away and.... watch him start to pursue. Watch him start to ask questions.
What you will be doing: - working out more - buying magazine on women's health & stuff - focusing on getting into shape (maybe with an intent on looking attractive to the opposite sex.. wink wink) - tanning (yes tanning, it bumps up physical attraction by at least 10%) - getting facials, manicures, pedicures - shopping for new clothes - getting a new sexy hairstyle - start going out more when he's home, leave him home, "I'm going to a new friend's house", when he asks, you'll tell him, "a new friend, you don't know them" - and then start locking your cell phone so that he can't browse your text messages
You can do it luvless, I have faith in you, you're a smart woman and smart women do what works ;-)
