I need to add some information for a clearer picture of our R. In the past 5 years, some of our close friends who are no longer close friends had an impact on my W. During those hard times when my W was being attacked by them I tried to support her. In my veiw at the time I thought it was just women being women.Its what they do.. We men tell each other to foff and thats it. For her though I didnt come to her defence. I have admitted that I was wrong, and was sorry that I didnt defend her as I should have. I should have told everyone who was involved to f@&koff and I take her side regardless. Instead, I kept trying to keep peace and keep the friendships going. Well, she recents that from me.
There was also an incedent where I disrespected her publically in front of our friends and she tells me that its a scar that she cannot over look. I am not tring to make excuses but I was with my buddies and that day alot of alcohol was consumed. You can say that I was not in the best form that day. The decision that I chose was definatly the wrong one. I will say, that this is the one topic that my W uses against me all the time which she says this is why the loss of connection.
A part of me thnks that its just a line because after my wrong doing in (June 2008) we still had intimacy after that.. The intimacy stopped once I read the Text message in Jan 2009. she also remings me that she has felt this way for a very long time, maybe 10 years.
M 43 W 43 S15 S 12 D 10 ILYBNILWY ( Dec 2009) Sleeping separate rooms April 8 2010. Sep as of 07/14/2010 W moving out 07/31/2010 No OM confirmed ( yet)
