Wife lost her love for me - my story

[TomLost Love]

Thank you all - I do feel good today - and am determined not to let anything effect me negatively today. Felt much better too after another lawyer visit - reality is in my sitch, there is not a lot to haggle about anyway. I am one of those NYer's who lost everything 18 months ago in the financial collapse (its always the worker bees in these things who suffer the most) and still trying to claw my way back. So for a LS its my salary, custody/visitation, and debts. I've come to the realization that we (W and I) have agreed to most of it, including adjustments to it, and 2 lawyers told me its fair, so there is no point in fighting and trying to change it anymore, or change her feelings. We had a long talk last night, first time in a long time, and I kept my 180 I think. So my plan at the moment is to enjoy my day, sign modifed agreement this weekend if its ready, and get on with my life. W will have her freedom, I will have to get a place to stay soon, and I will keep my focus on my outlook and my relationship with kids. As discussed all over this site and elsewhere in all my research - I cannot fix her and the best thing is to let her find her way to the next chapter alone, and be there if she decides to approach me to talk. I definitely am going to start running at least - and take it from there. I am scared but I am more focused at this moment with reality than I have been in a long time. On to my next meeting - talk later......