Actually, I agree with you Dday - I was essentially saying the same thing. My meaning is that you do not bury nor repress nor deny what happened. Embrace it and move forward. You do not look back on it in the sense of letting it hold you down like a millstone or burden.
Perhaps I was reaching too hard to try and extend Rocked's travel / climb analogy .
From what I've been through, I also believe you can't be afraid to look at the scars either. You do not, however, obssess over it or let it eat at you.
Me 42 W 39 Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992 First Bomb: Sep 2007 Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007 Kids: D10, S5 Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak. 3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.
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