VALENTINES DAY COMING!!

[cesco]

I am a first timer, read numerous posts and recieved some great thoughts. I thought I would share and recieve some great feedback..

I am married 18 yrs, 3kids. Like everyone on here, I knew nothing of the lost connection with my W.
Its only come up within the last year as I saw a text from om persuing her. My w advises, just a friend. Ya!!!... i know..
I have not been able to confirm anything. Her routine has been the same. My W advises that she needs her space.

The anxiety has been a killer. I seeked a therapist whom has helped. She advised to read the DB book. I have done so, a couple of times now.
I suggested to W that she too seek counciling for herself too. Reluctantly she has gone twice now, but tells me that her feeling are there and she cant help them and that nobody can change how she feels. I get that.
I have just now within the last few days gone dark on her based on what I read here. We sleep in the same bed, but no contact what so ever. W kisses me good night, and in the morning before she leaves. I make ZERO attempt now.
I realize I was the pursuer and it was wrong based on DB and comments on here.
I Making dinner, not moody, even making her lunch for work. Probably shouldnt but as I am making the kids lunch whats an extra one I say..
We dont argue, but dont really say much either.

I thought this past weekend it was over. I told her that I would leave. I will not say that again based again on what I read here. I am not the one who wants out of the M, and if she does she must be the one to go..
I tread very lightly because of my youngest daughter whom is very close to my W. I dont want to break her heart because my W is in a fog right now..
Valentines is coming up, I always buy her a card, chocolates and flowers. Do I do the same? it would look like I am persuing?

I want to say thank you to everyone who posts on here.. I think I am hooked and the first thing I do is ready your stories and I wish everyone luck!!..