If you can get a friend or relative to go through photos and pick duplicates out, that will save you some heartache. I had a relative do this and even they were having a hard time looking through the pictures. My W was accepted in the family and treated as one of our own, she hurt many other people besides me.
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D talk-7/28/09 W Moved out-9/01/09 W wants D-9/22/09 W doesnt want D-12/1/09 W Moved in/I Moved out-12/21/09 W wants D-1/19/10 D Final-04/15/10
Gardener, If you can get a friend or relative to go through photos and pick duplicates out, that will save you some heartache. I had a relative do this and even they were having a hard time looking through the pictures. My W was accepted in the family and treated as one of our own, she hurt many other people besides me.
Actually, what I did one night this summer in an admittedly bittersweet pity party, was to go through all 17 years of photos. Had some smiles. Had some tears.
Then I put the three boxes on TGSTBXW's "pile" of stuff in the garage and wrote a note on the top box (factually, without any animosity).
"Mrs. G, Here are all our pictures. I went through them all tonight. I thank you for having taken them(note: she was the photographer of the family). We should have looked at them together more often and enjoyed them and reminisced. Keep them or toss them as you see fit. I don't want any. G."
And I really don't want any. They are painful to look at and they are reminders of her worthless word, promise, commitment, and vows.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
And I really don't want any. They are painful to look at and they are reminders of her worthless word, promise, commitment, and vows.
Yea, I can understand that. I dont plan on looking at our pictures for a long time. I think in the future I will look back and thank my STBXW for this. Ill look at the pictures of think, "Im glad im not with that nutcase anymore"
I still have to go through the digital pictures though, she wants copies of those...
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D talk-7/28/09 W Moved out-9/01/09 W wants D-9/22/09 W doesnt want D-12/1/09 W Moved in/I Moved out-12/21/09 W wants D-1/19/10 D Final-04/15/10
Pictures. Ugh. I don't even want to deal with them. Maybe STBX will just put them in a box and I can deal with it after the D is over. I'm having him served (again) tomorrow.
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I know how you feel. I'm experiencing those same feelings right now. I'm in the middle of moving the rest of our stuff out of our hold house right now too. It's draining in every sense. Hard to accept the reality of the situation, at least for me. I fought it for so long that now I feel as though it's my only choice and I'm angry at him for that. It took everyting in me to hold it together at work yesterday. I finally decided it's time to start looking for a lawyer. Felt sick to my stomach. Felt like my head was going to pop off. This is so very hard. I'm here to listen, I understand.
I had to go through some pictures for a project for one of the kids. I set some aside and sent them over to X with the kids. He never acknowledged that he got them, much less thanked me. It was all pictures of him with the kids....none with me in them. I decided that since he didn't thank me, much less even let me kniow he got them, that they must not mean much to him. So this summer i will be going through all of the old pictures and dividing them up for the kids. Pictures that are just the two of us will be going into a box.....which will be stored away, not sure if they will ever be looked at again.
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
The only prints we have are those that are mine, he doesn't even know where they are. I framed two wedding pictures (when we were married). Last time I was in the house he put them on my desk (returned his).
We have many digital pictures. I am "the photographer". I have most of them, but there are some that were stored on shared drive and I don't have them. He would have to either give me access to through them (I doubt that) or burn me a copy himself.
