Just scared of what comes next!

[dday101798]

I think the problem here for the both of you, Kissak and Cyrena, IS the fact you tried to work on things and your spouses weren't over their OP, point blank.

I made darn sure (x)W had a clear head with zero thought of OM before anything went anywhere. As it just seemed odd to me that she could just up and leave him that quickly and be detached. But as she said and I know, she never was attached to him at all and that made things all the much easier.

So, there's the first thing, they need to let the withdrawl effect of the OP be gone before trying to patch up your relationships.

Secondly, and mostly Kissak, you NEED to vocalize the things you are feeling. You need to let him know what I just said, and then when he commits to that you need commit to yourself that YOU ARE THE PRIZE. You can go in any direction you so choose. He is the one who has to win that prize, YOU.