Calling out the Piecers

[dday101798]

Still, my advise is to ease the family back into the swing of things. Haste or hesitation, either way, there's risk....

True, for this sitch tho, getting everybody back together is the manditory thing to do.

Heard back from my insurance and the news wasn't good, other party refuses to pay, will not co-operate and it's going to legal settlement which could drag out months. So, had dinner with (x)W and kids last night and tried to hash a solid plan out with various expenses all in the air. Didn't really come up with anything solid and I promissed my cousin I'd be 'home' s I had to leave. When leaving, the kids were sadenned. So, this means we really need to hash this out. I came up with a viable solid plan this morning on the way in, so I'll present it to (x)W tonight and we may very well be in motion to get everything accomplished at minimal distruption to the overall plan. For some reason I always think better on the road.

That said, that's about all I got. I really didn't want to go by (x)W last night because A) I was very irritated with the news on the car and didn't want to take it out on (x)W and B) I was in no mood for (x)FIL and figured he'd be there. Well, she stated and re-stated that we are in this together and whatever she has, I have and not to shut her out (which I ALWAYS did).

So, I went over there in the new spirit of things. It went well and I curbed my frustrations. And of course (x)FIL was there taking a shower after working in his garage all afternoon. (x)W and he did speak apparently earlier after (x)FIL spoke to his "financial adviser" (girlfriend) about what to sell our house for. Needless to say, he once again jacked the price out of our means. Fine. He was however a bit warmer this time when getting out of the bathroojm and saw me sitting there eating dinner with the family. So apparently somewhere in the house conversation something was said.

Anywho, my plan for now is to look at this house for rent on Satruday that is really cute and actually has a yard for the kids and a big one at that. Our house didn't have a yard, all deck/patio and water garden as all houses in the area only have a 30x30 foot yard anyway. And the size and price is right.

(x)W's brother is bringing her truck up this weekend so I'll propose my plan to (x)W I came up with that gets everybody covered transportation wise and that's covered. My truck, at least until we get the house to store it in the garage, I will ask my current neighbor who wants me to fix his son's car if I can store it in his and throw him a few bottles of favorite booze a month until I can move it or the settlement goes through whichever comes first.

Heh, (x)W and I were soooooooo on the same page last night, we couldn't come up with anything solid to make everything work, but we both kept saying, somehow, some way we always conquered crap like this to get life moving, and well, here we are.

I've decided that once we settle living arrangements, peicing is no longer the applicable place for me and I'll add some life to the reconcilling boards. Our marital issues are no more, I don't even think about any issues regarding OM any more. I've spent enough time with her recently to know that there is nothing to worry about. She has come full tilt to realize and question what the heck was she thinking in that regard.

It's funny, the "easiest" part to peicing thus far was laying the M issues to rest. It's everything else, family, friends, cars, living arrangements that's really complicating things even more than our own problems that no longer exist.