She seems almost totally disconnected. Any suggestions?
This is not about her. Detach. GAL. Use this time to work on you. Be the best DAD you can be. Be the best ericmsant2 you can be. She is giving you this time as a gift. What is it that you would like to do that you haven't had time to do because you were married. Connect with old friends. Are you on the alt? = (FB) Do not worry about her. I understand that is hard. We all struggle with it every day but that is what you must do. This is not a 3 week event. It is LONG! She will have ups and downs, good days and bad days, do not dwell on them.
I would really suggest reading the resources. You need to understand what you are dealing with.