One thing I've learned from reading your posts is you've been carrying her across puddles for a long time. Stop it. You're over thinking this. Stop it. Let go. It's your choice, it's a good choice for you and you will be fine
I like the harsher WT
Men(including myself) have to be so damn detail oriented..we have to have a plan in place before we can take a crap..
and that sometimes comes across as controlling..cause we damn sure can't verbalize what we are thinking..
so..my suggestion...don't have a plan(for her) or for the unimportant things...
flying by the seat of your pants can free your mind sometimes..I went from detail oriented with everything to finally figuring out that if I'm 10 minutes late for church that they don't kick you out, lock the doors or stare at you..
bottom line Tim...you're dealing with a woman(no offense ladies)and they are not wired to "detailed plans" of men..
I'd go with it..I'd decide what you want and need..and that's what you should do..
