Business like on the taxes: here is Y, please send me X. I'm doing the same with my X right now. Driving him crazy because he doesn't have access to the quicken files, and I am doing my best to pull them together as well as he would have.
For the "let's talk" I would stick with: "all S agreements can be handled by the L. "
I think I would skip the "as long as you are in an affair.." part. Sounds to me like bitter, angry.
Maybe: is there something urgent you would like to discuss that cannot be handled by the Ls?
It is an excellent opp to show how much you have grown and can handle it. If you fall to pieces afterwards--well, that's afterwards! And what anti-a meds or a good stiff drink is for!
You will handle it however you choose to do it. But do set your terms of time, place, and get a sense of his agenda so you aren't left to punt in reaction to some wacky thing he brings up.
You have all my sympathy on this--I am avoiding all tax, house, bill convo with X as much as possible! And certainly don't want to see him! But if I have to--calm, cool, collected is the way to go.
You rock on!
Me: 44 Him: 42 Together: 23 years; never married Bomb: August 1, 2009 Affair since May 2009 Walk away; no conversation; no process
