The adventure chronicles

[GH31]

I think I should be able to say what I want without her reacting in an angry manner on every thing she disagrees about.

Yes you should be able to say whatever you want (as long as it's without demands, disrespect and anger) without having to walk on eggshells, terrified of her temper and how she might react.

In countries like North Korea it's not the right to agree which causes anyone any problems. It's the right to disagree which is hugely problematic for individuals in countries like these.

Which countries does everyone want to live in? Iran? North Korea? Cuba? Former East Germany?

Not on your life. It's no accident that millions have sought to come to countries like Australia, the United States, the UK and elsewhere in Western Europe. It's because they can disagree without the threat of punishment.

I don't believe things are any different, really, in the home.

Which kind of home would you want to live in?

I'm still really struggling with which way to go on this. She seems really remorseful but there really is a lot of damage. I am struggling at times to believe that she is sincere and am asking myself what are her true intentions?

I mean what I am about to say with the greatest of respect AFWAW. Her intentions are to get her needs met however that is achieved.

She's made statements about not getting to see her daughter and about how her finances have suffered(I assume because she has gone in debt to furnish her apartment and buy her new car).

Is there any insight into how her choices and judgment have ocassioned her dire financial state? Any danger of personal responsibility being taken?

And then there's days where she talks about how she regrets treating me the way that she did.

Telling you what she thinks you want to hear? (Playing Devil's Advocate here)

So, I really don't know which way to go at times or what to think. Part of me still wants to work this out and the other part of me says to hell with it, nothing is worth this much work.

I feel for you AFWAW, and, you have my utmost support. This is only my opinion which you are free to take on board or to reject - it's insight which is key to your wife and whether you feel safe with her. Does she truly see how her actions have occasioned the current status of her life?