The adventure chronicles

[AFWAW]

Does she really have a habit of mocking and/or ridiculing your efforts?

It felt like at times she did. I don't know if it was a defense mechanism for her or what but she made the comment last year that she never felt like she was good enough for me? I think that's where this comes from maybe.

Does she measure success purely by the number of material possessions one has? I feel sorry for her in one way as I once thought like this - it comes from a place of real psychological impoverishment.

If you asked her that then she would say no absolutely not but actions do speak louder than words and when we were together she shopped quite a bit and we never really had any savings. Anytime we had a good chunk of change, she was looking for a way to spend it and we didn't need anything. She has gotten herself so far into debt right now that she has stopped paying me child support because she claims she cannot pay her bills and child support and live. Hmmmmmmm.

Please, please stay firm in your boundaries. You mentioned in an earlier post that she had been intimate with 6 men during your "situation". Has this been addressed in any way?

I am trying to stay firm in my boundaries but I think her patience is wearing thin. She is ready to move on I think at times because I have not wavered in what I want. Regarding the 6 men, she just admitted this to me recently. I was pretty disgusted and hurt even after all this time that she would do this so I really don't know what to think. Whenever I attempt to talk about it, she gets really defensive and doesn't want to talk about it which is why I think she needs counseling which she claims to have signed up for but still has not gone to.

Another thing, she keeps bringing up to me that her lease is up in April and will I let her move back home or does she need to find another place. She keeps bringing that up and I think that is her deadline for me to make a decision although she has not come out and said this to me. I personally don't think I will let her logistics problem drive me decision but I can see where she would try to use this as logic to attempt to sway my decision. That's human nature, right? Whatever is easiest. I'll come back home and we can forget that all this ever happened. Yeah, ok.

Once again, I have a very tough decision to make.