take into account this isn't resentment or anger talking during these recent posts, this is just a realization of your current reality, instead of fighting reality which you've been doing all of this time (arguing with him, explaining your feelings to him, asking him to change, telling him what he's doing is wrong, him willfully and knowingly doing things that hurt & anger you and show you he doesn't value you or the relationship he has with you), you don't fight reality - you can't fight reality, you accept it, when you don't accept it, you get nowhere and still complain that life isn't fair. Life is fair, it's been showing you the way the whole time, we just didn't like the way originally because we thought it would bring us away from what we wanted but we've proven that fighting against the facts of reality, we don't get what we want. So what do we do, we accept it, we accept that spouse isn't going to change because he has no reason to change, we let them go, it's their choice to live their lives like this but we also learn that we have a choice as well, we can follow them, try to change them, try to force them to be with us and to treat us properly or we accept reality and let go.
The funny thing is this, accepting reality actually brings us closer to getting what we want.
When we let them go, we stop fighting with them, we stop pressuring them, they can be whoever they want to be, however we remove ourselves as an option in their lives - as long as you are an "option", you will be something that can be used or discarded as they see fit, removing the option gives them fear of loss, something they haven't experienced, we're no longer around to be used, our value increases, we become something to be sought after, something that someone should work hard for, that shouldn't be taken for granted.
We always want what we don't have, we don't appreciate things we have easily in our lives.
Remove yourself as an option, move in the opposite direction of your spouse:
"I've had enough of this, I don't want this anymore, it's time for something better in my life and you aren't it, it's time for you to go away."
