Congratulations (((Deep)))! How wonderful on so many levels! It is such a story of hope and encouragement. Yes, God is good. Thank you for sharing your good news with us and may your blessings continue throughout the new year!
(((Kara, Sandi, Lotus, GIMA, rocked, cutter))), indeed every one of the DB family. I appreciate all your kind words, no, I'm honored by them. Talking to you here through the months has been such a support.
Sandi, many of your words especially resonated with me, including the 2X4s. And GIMA, reading through your sitch, you're a walking example of "Strength and Honor" in how you are holding yourself up.
DB success? I wouldn't be that presumptuous - afterall, if nothing else, many of us here, LBS, WAS, whatever, have learnt at least one thing, and that is never to take things for granted. Lots of ups and downs and challenges to come (expectedly), but for W and myself to have found ourselves and our M as it is now, is a blessing I can only ascribe to the mercy of God.
This child means so much to us. W had undergone a series of X-rays and blastings on her kidney stones during the first weeks unknowingly. We were told he would self terminate and to abort if not by the gynae who delivered our first 2 kids, which was why we switched doctors. I've always been pro-life, W had always maintained she would be practical and choose termination if the foetus was compromised - she could not quite hold that line when it came to the crunch, as she put it "easy to say, but not easy to push that button". I was half dreading this to possibly cause another schism in our M. A decision point where our beliefs varied so much and where we hoped never to be tested.
The 2nd gynae gave us some hope. And we took it forward day by day, me praying almost every day, and both hoping the tests we took duing term would not come back with results that would shatter us.
And now, here we are. There's still fear, still unknowns, but right now, just a whole lot of gratitude, hope, and happiness.
Me 42 W 39 Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992 First Bomb: Sep 2007 Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007 Kids: D10, S5 Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak. 3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.
Deep - I am so happy for the sucess that you and W are having. I am sadden for what you both are going thru today. I, too, wish this was neither a test of your faith or beliefs as to what you face now with your unborn child...
I offer my prayers as this will be all that I have to offer. God be with you and your family during these difficult times.
May God Bless you and keep you always....
Me 43 / W 40 T 29 / M 15 S-18 11/4/09-ILYBINILWY 11/10/09-Separated 12/1/09-W admitted EA 12/5/09-W admitted PA 12/24/09 W say "I love you"
"A GOOD MARRIAGE IS NOT ONE WHERE PERFECTION REIGNS"
Don't know how I missed the post of your baby's arrival....Anyway, warm congratulations to you on his arrival and to all your family. From the difficulties and pain comes such renewed hope, love and joy. May God's blessings continue to be given abundantly to your baby son and of course, to you all. I thought your post marking his arrival was a really beautiful announcement and one which highlighted your own faith, resilience and integrity.
Just an update for the friends I've come to know and value on here, and the DB family. Hope nobody takes it the wrong way that I'm sharing a very happy development for me. Which also explains the changes in my signature lines.
Our third child was born 2 Jan, a healthy, strong boy weighing just over 6.1 Lb. Mother and child are doing well.
I thought I would be happy, and I was, the depth of feeling I had, holding her, holding him, and holding her with him in her arms ... words fail me. And as we just held hands or looked silently at each other for the hours together today, I felt like my heart would burst, in a good way .
I'm feeling very, very blessed, and very, very grateful. I would not have seen myself here EVER not too long ago. Thanks to all of you here for being here and allowing me to share my life and yours, especially when I needed to vent. I hope all of us will find happiness from our sitches in some way. And most of all, I thank God, for His mercy.
Woo Hoo!! Heartfelt congrats, Deep. (and where are the pics??!)
I'm so happy for all of you.
Cheers!
Dia
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
My sitch - Divorce Busted! http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1804137#Post1804137
DB success? I wouldn't be that presumptuous - afterall, if nothing else, many of us here, LBS, WAS, whatever, have learnt at least one thing, and that is never to take things for granted. Lots of ups and downs and challenges to come (expectedly), but for W and myself to have found ourselves and our M as it is now, is a blessing I can only ascribe to the mercy of God.
Congratulations on the baby! You're right not to be presumptious, but hopeful and working towards being the best spouses you can be for each other is a great idea. Hopefully, the new flood of emotions with the baby will help your W make a deeper connection and committment to you and your kids - one that can last throught the enevitable upheavals that will arise when the baby starts to pee on the carpet! I hope you have hardwood!
Sincerest congratulations to you mate! That's just beautiful, bringing a new baby into this world. Best to you and your wife and all three of your children!
GH31
Me: 46 W: 46 T: 23 M: 20 DS12 DD11 DS5
W left: 01/28/08 Discovered OM: 02/26/08 W back for 9 days: 04/08 W returned 05/21/08 EA/PA - 01/08-07/09 W's MLC 2008-2014 (realised this much later)
Thank you for sharing your good news with us and may your blessings continue throughout the new year!