I really can't take this anymore and I'm done and I've had it! I'm sure he won't care if I throw him out so I don't even worry about that part.
I do know I have to do this and do it right. He will leave if I ask him so that's how it will go. I just have been avoiding being the one to "kick him out" so he can just blame me like he's been doing for everything!
I'm going to take your advice and will not mess this up. I owe it to myself after all this anguish.
Thank you for taking the time to post that detailed response.
You see that attitude about not taking this anymore and "I'm done", that's the attitude.
He may not care initially if you throw him out, and actually I would hope that is the case. Here's the reasoning, he believes he still has the upper hand here. This is where sticking to your guns makes the difference, he'll leave for a weekend, few days, a week, maybe more and then he'll come back and think that everything's ok and that's when you stick to your guns (and I mean stick to your guns, no half assed effort!) and you tell him in a calm way without being angry but being serious and you look at him and tell him "I was serious, I'm done, I don't want this anymore, I want something better in my life and I've been wasting my life with someone like you. You don't know what you had, you took me for granted all this time and if I took you back, you would be nice for a bit and then go back to your old ways. Life is too precious to waste, its time for me to heal from this and then maybe find someone else when I'm ready, I want good things for you too, one day you'll see this was for the best...", short, sweet, to the point and not being angry about it. Showing you're angry is really just showing you're still emotionally invested in him and your relationship, being indifferent shows him something he hasn't seen before, no emotion, no reaction.
Alot of people will tell you, a relationship requires lots of hard work, maybe they're right or maybe they just don't know that people should reciprocate love, caring & tenderness - you should be loved the way you want to be loved, if you don't get love like that from your partner you will always be unsatisfied and you will always feel like you're settling and then you will feel resentful and I don't care who you are, you can hold in those feelings of resentment for so long until you explode.
If he wants to love you he'll learn how to do it the right way, if he leaves and never comes back, you've found out now instead of wasting years of your life investing in a person who had no intention of loving you the way want to be loved.
