My ex called to say goodnight to our daughter...used her cell phone even instead of her work phone which is unusual. Then after she had said bye to our daughter I went to say bye to her and she hung up before I could get it out.
I'm sure its meaningless...but it seems when anything out of the ordinary happens with her (like shutting your cell phone off at 10PM to go to bed) I get this weird feeling.
I've been reading more threads where people talk about their boundaries. It was interesting because not all of them are huge boundaries...just any undesired behavior and a consequence.
That will definately help should I be put in the position of feeling like a doormat again.
It was kind of interesting too how a lot of people I read about had similar problems of halfheartedly DB-ing or doing it for a while then sliding back to what's not recommended.
GAL-ing when your child and spouse have been your whole life for so long is a lot harder than it sounds like. It's been so long since I did things that I really enjoyed on my own that I have trouble thinking of what I like to do. For as long as I can remeber I've been pretty much a homebody...which is one of the reasons my ex gave for losing interest.
I'm trying to think of a hobby I could pick up that would fit into my visitation schedule with my daughter. Friday night is the only full night I have without her and I'm not really a bar/club type person which is mainly what people do on Friday nights.
During the day when she's not with me I usually go to the gym and run errands, though theres at least one or two free hours each day that could stand to be filled.
The sad part about the gym is that it really does nothing for me. I dont enjoy going, dont enjoy working out, and dont feel better when I'm done. As CityGirl said I'm doing these things to win back my ex...joining the gym is a perfect example. I thought if I get in shape and show her not only a more fit me but that I can get out of the house it would reattract her. Suffice it to say it hasnt made a dent. Granted the OM is in her life and she's high on the in-love feeling so it likely wouldnt matter if I did cartwheels while skydiving and playing a tuba.
