MissH The best revenge is to live the better life.
And as you see, that really does p!ss them off. He lost his control over you. He doesn't have that satisfaction he expected or the joy it was going to bring him.
Bigger isn't always better. You'll make happiness wherever you are. He won't be happy in any home. They come with strings attached, and pressures he wanted to abandon.
He won't be happy in any car. He just won't be happy. He left saying you made him unhappy; they all do. He thinks you're still keeping him from his happiness. What's holding him back? They just continue this downward spiral, trying to fly through their storm. Let the courts set boundaries while you watch from a safe distance. Skip through the commercials!
Take care and love yourself, your kids, and your dad. List the many blessings you have, instead of the problems. Your blessing will grow, your problems will fade, and your X will always be an @ss.