The adventure chronicles

[GH31]

Hi AFWAW,

- A woman that wants to be with me because who I am not because she wants to change who I am.
- A woman that can accept that she can't control everything and when she doesn't get her way she doesn't lose it.
- A woman mature enough to control her emotions for the most part--there will always be exceptions, I get that.
- A woman who supports my dreams and will give me the freedom to pursue them.
- Who does not mock my efforts or ridicule them
- Who realizes what she's got and doesn't compare me to others
- Who confides in me and values my opinion
- Who doesn't measure success with material possessions

This is a great list that you've written.

The ones that I've put in bold really jump out at me though. Does she really have a habit of mocking and/or ridiculing your efforts? If she does then that's just awful. I can absolutely understand why you wouldn't want to touch her with a bargepole if she's like this and makes no effort to change.

Does she measure success purely by the number of material possessions one has? I feel sorry for her in one way as I once thought like this - it comes from a place of real psychological impoverishment.

Please, please stay firm in your boundaries. You mentioned in an earlier post that she had been intimate with 6 men during your "situation". Has this been addressed in any way?

best wishes,

GH31