but this morning she said she felt all the pain from the past and was expecting me to be the "rollercoaster" again...
Big opportunity to validate here. You could say,
" I understand how you can feel that way, thank you for sharing that with me."
It takes her stick away so to speak, also if she is justifying what "you think" she is about to do, when you validate you take away some of that justification. What is more important to remember is that you don't know what she is doing, so stop expending mental energy on it. Hard to do I know, it comes with detatchment, detatchment comes with time, be PATIENT, it will get better.
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Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
