Had alot of reading to do to catch up, Hi Maria, the only additional comment I have other than what has been said is that the thought occurred to me, is what he did before that made you happy enough for the person you are now? from posts I have read he was always busy, you had little time together etc.. were you truly happy then with what you had, the life and marriage you had? I mean pre A and subsequent discoveries plus "other" life changing events. People change with or without afairs or MLC. We all do with life experiences,we hope,we think that those we love are changing along the same lines as we are and that we will still be the same people.
One of the biggest mistakes in peicing I read is that you can't just pick up where you left off and put the past behind you because by its very nature the old marriage has gone. You both are different people now.
So is the man you loved then and the things he did that made you happy, enough for the Maria you became/are now ? I know that is a really hard question and not one I would care to have to answer but neds thinking on I fear.((((((())))))))
