OMG! He is a nut case! He's describing himself, not you. The projections are very strong here and it sounds like he's about to pop! He's doing everything he can to push your buttons to get you to react and respond to him. Gosh, he' worse than a 2 yr old.
Stay the course and I'm very sorry he's sending this messages through your children. What a pathetic nut case.
Please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.