I see what you're saying and I'll add that starting last weekend I did the similar technique that I had read about with her every time we were together and not only did she open up and talk to me but that may be what led to all those things we did together.
Then again it may not have...I may never understand why she did all that and then still committed (...a potentially meaningless concept for her) to the OM while we were doing that stuff.
At any rate I agree that validation can produce positive results if its done right...but like the other technique it requires practice and a sense of awareness of when to do it.
And I did miss an opportunity to do it when she made that statement. While I didnt say "no it's your fault not mine" I did get caught up in not letting myself get blamed. Additionally I was quite nervous at the time of the call because I really thought she would be mad at how I had acted so I didnt have it together enough to realize the opportunity.
