Think again.... I guarantee you there is another woman in the picture... You are in denial..
You won't be able to get this relationship on track until you face the facts.
You need to get the facts and find out who she is.
I know you don't want to believe what I say, but it doesn't matter what you want to believe. What matters is the truth.
One thing I want to point out is the power of a specific action that happened in this situation. It seems most WAS's have the technique mastered but the LBS's are clueless about it.
The power of saying, "I've had ENOUGH!", "I'm done", etc.
Up until that point, you didn't jump to action, you didn't move with the speed of thought to fix your problems and show your spouses how much you want them.
Why not use this knowledge and gosh darn it, you should all be using this knowledge to your advantage and turn it around on your WAS's.
"I've had enough!"
"I'm done!"
And turn around and go off in the opposite direction.
What you're doing now doesn't work, you can chase your spouse, preach undying love and devotion but that seems to have the opposite effect, they maintain their distance or even lengthen it to keep away from you.
So why not try the opposite, tell them "I am done, I've had enough, this is too much work and it's not worth it to me anymore, have a good life because I know I'm not wasting my life convincing you that I'm worth it, I've been so dumb to waste so much of my time on this and now I finally see that it's over and I'm glad because now I get to enjoy my life!!!"
But you're all afraid to do this, my question is, if you've technically lost your spouse, what are you afraid of losing now? You can't LOSE LOSE them.
Communicate to them that you're done, maintain your distance, show them you mean it by not contacting them anymore, getting a real life (not fake GAL'ing like alot of you are doing) and watch what happens. You move away and I bet you quite a few of your WAS's would change direction because although you have lost them, they currently still have you, they haven't lost you, they know they could have you at any time, watch what would happen if you let go or more accurately, removed yourself from their grasp.
