Dear TTA, I have been following your post and also tried to get my H to go to Retro, to no avail. I also wanted to let you know that I work in DC and am down there often, so happy to meet up with you whenever! Lots of similarites in these sitches and we can help each other through this process...the good thing about this is that I have met SO many people going through D and it's been a wonderful support group. I also did try a divorce support group throught the catholic church..onyl went once but it was amazingly helpful in giving me perspective. But clearly not all are great - stay away from yours if it was a downer! But there are other resources out there..and I must say, to have a Catholic priest look me in the face and tell me "you are a wonderful woman...this man is not treating you as a man should treat his wife..this is abandonment and you deserve so much better" and others chimed in on Retro and what you can do, but also what to do to preserve your self-respect it was inspiring.
Exercize helps/yoga - huge for me to! And dating frankly really helped me as well..it helped me get my MOJO back! I mentioned earlier that going out 'w a frog' did make me sad and miss H more, I would rather do that than sit home on my coach and sulk. It made me realize there are other great guys out there..you just need to be cautious b/c you are still in healing mode, but a little PMA (positive male attn) never hurts!!
You sound like you are doing the right things and I hear you on the mom stuff...that is a challenge for me as well.
