No she has not told me she loves me - other than a friend. She did acknowledge being my wife. It doesn't really matter either way, I know what you're getting at.
Well today I told my wife that I think her and I should limit our communication to the kids. She said "Uh OK if that's what you want." I said "It's not what I want but I felt that I couldn't be involved in her life outside of a marital context."
I had to do this for me. My sanity and self respect were taking a hit. I got the feeling that she was getting her fantasy of having her single life but getting what she felt she needed from me.
You got DBing quick, and seemed to handle it well.
I hope that you hold onto DBing for awhile longer.
You are one of those guys designed not to fail. I am not saying that means everything is going to be all milk and honey...just that I get the feeling you can navigate a shitstorm and whistle most of the way.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
I'm not done DBing by a long shot. My wife just seemed to get comfortable having the pieces of a husband she wanted while having her "single" life. I was feeling used to a point and just had to step back for myself. On top of that I think she really needs to feel what it would be like for me to not be there whenever she wants.
As far as limiting contact. I can change the rule when I want to.
Well saw my wife today. Met her at the store to give her her half of our income taxes. We both had to do grocery shopping and I steered clear as best as I could. We did bump into each other a couple times along the way and she was playful. She also kept trying to engage me in conversation. Mostly complaining how tired she was (she's been diagnosed with anemia and I'm sure the depression is fueling that also). I would listen for a minute and then cut it short and continue on my way. We'll see what tomorrow brings.
