Back here, for the second time... #69

[awest1217]

One thing I read from one of the books over the past six months is something along the lines that without taking a risk you can't find love. Taking this off of you a bit. After all you have been through, you have a tough exterior and because of your experiences, you first response is to protect yourself, which is completely understandable, however, unless you are willing to open up a little, he won't open up. He sees you as a strong woman, which you are in order to stick with him, but now you need to start giving back some control to him and help him to succeed. This isn't playing a game, but rebuilding confidence for him and you. Something as small as asking him to make the next MC appointment. Don't demand, but let him know you are busy and would appreciate him taking the time to make the next MC appointment. Just sit back and wait for him to do it, or it could be some other small task. You really need to make a plan now to get back to each other. You both have walls built, and it may be that until you show that you are willing to open up and let the vulnerability show, he won't be able to take the next step to be the man.