onceburdened, this is my second thread, the first is in WAW- called PLEASE HELP, I don't know how to post the link. I mention this b/c this has been going on for a while, and I am only now "getting it".
Thanks for your encouragement. I just feel the urge to beg again or to rationalize. I know it won't do any good b/c she doesnt have any feelings for me now, so I won't waste my breath. Clearly at this moment I am not detatched.
The good news is I have some control over my emotions, I am able to pause prior to acting- so i am able to avoid making my previous mistakes.
I feel I am being too shortsighted, and I feel that this moment I am focusing on a M that is not even there...so why be concerned about something that is not...I'm starting to feel better now
I would also consider leaving out the "Sorry, just saw this". No need to apologize or explain.
I include that for two reasons. One, just as a general courtesy, the way one would say "please," "thank you," or "I'm sorry; that certainly wasn't my intention." Not to convey some real sense of REMORSE.
The other reason is to reinforce the "I'm just super busy" part.
Puppy
I understood your intention. Ms Maynard might not. That is Maynards call.
The goal is projecting that you are very busy living life and not waiting on her......
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
Naturally part of me wants to inquire or try to encourage or fix, but I will do nothing. I've felt really weak emotionally today, work is not that busy I suppose...
So- W did not come over yest morning, she texted that she would this morning.
I took Puppys advice and sent the reply to yest text "This is stressful for everyone, you are not alone."
W- disregarded and sent the msg about soming over in the morning to see dogs.
We are supposed to see eachother later today- I might reschedule. We had a good laugh over texting- one of our dogs was so happy to see her he ran through the open door and fell in the pool.
W texted me that shes going to see psych to get off her meds- she cant afford them w/ no insurance, and she feels she doesn't need them anymore.
This could be a good thing b/c our MC said her lack of emotions concerned her.
Staying focused at work- I made it through the day yest not pursuing like I had contemplated- thank goodness for that!!
