Is this piecing?

[flowmom]

I guess we can just see their defensiveness not as an attack on us, but as their own issues. It's tough when we have felt deprived of respect for so many years. But if they're not listening, we have to stop what we're doing to try to "get them" to listen. We can't make them.

Yeah. I hear that. It's a dynamic that creates deep ruts after years.

Am I still piecing even though we don't live together? Seems like most people on piecing are living together and have more of a commitment. H is at the "on the fence" stage and working in MC with me...but no commitment yet. I put myself here because I do feel he and I are trying to work on our R, even if we end up not making it ...

I don't know about the definitions, but I would be thrilled if I could see H and I working on our R in a crystal ball...