I never honestly thought he is not CAPABLE of giving me what I want, most of it at least. I am hurt and disappointed he chooses not to. He feels I am confident he cant. I say, feel, he wont.
He misses the fact that when I get upset and insist on what I need it is because he has given it to me before. I know he could.
Have you said this to him? These precise words?
IMO I would write back or tell him this simply and clearly, and then let him go in his cave and think about it. If he's using a cop out, he won't do anything with the info. BUt if he is really struggling with wanting to know how to love you and make you happy, then positive support may encourage him. But let him make the choice.
I don't know your sitch well enough to know where your H is coming from. Just trust your intuition on this.
