I would say respond with love and compassion. No demands, affirmations that yes you are hurt but together you can find a way to rebuild your marriage.
He knows how badly he screwed up. I often think I could have turned it around if I hadn't kept throwing how bad he messed up, how hurt I was, How wrong this all was in his face. Remember, I didn't find this site until the D was already filed.
I know you can do this. I also believe that you want to.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory