her father and mother have sent email to both of us and are asking questions. W has been fairly forthcoming with our sitch and has not painted me in a terrible light.
do i tell my side of the story including R talk, they are asking me to?
i feel that this is a great opportunity, because they will be the only ones that would be getting both sides of the story. W's counselor and friends only get her side.
M=37 W=40 Married=10,T=12 D=10 D=8 WAW Bomb=1/12 EA confirmed=1/13 EA exposed=1/27 Current In house separation
If you are asked, by two people whom you respect, I think you should tell them the truth. Don't embellish it, but don't hide from it, either.
"I'm sorry to have to tell you this, but I respect you too much to ever lie to you" should be your position with your in-laws. I know it was with mine.
W has copied me on email to them and they are copying me on the responses. it's much easier to be calm and confident in an email. i'm intending on telling the truth.
I wrote an email after reading some back and forth, that i would love to respond, but i have too much work right now and i would digest this evening and share my feelings.
M=37 W=40 Married=10,T=12 D=10 D=8 WAW Bomb=1/12 EA confirmed=1/13 EA exposed=1/27 Current In house separation
If you are asked, by two people whom you respect, I think you should tell them the truth. Don't embellish it, but don't hide from it, either. "I'm sorry to have to tell you this, but I respect you too much to ever lie to you" should be your position with your in-laws. I know it was with mine. Puppy
^^^Ditto^^^
Originally Posted By: Puppy Dog Tails
Just don't put anything in writing that could incriminate you, legally. Might want to run it by your atty first.
^^^Double Ditto^^^ Hmmm. Seems like I almost always follow Puppy with a simple "Bingo!" or "Ditto!", whenever I do chime in. Puppy, maybe you could just add "Gardener agrees." to all your posts, because I always do!
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
Watching the W huff around the house moving her clothes out of my(marital room). She is hurt because I told one of my friends that the stitches on my face were from the phone she threw, and that she was having communication with OM. And that I told her to leave or I was telling all of her friends what she was doing.
He is my fried, but his wife is her friend and our kids go to the same school and she is scared that a rumor will be flying around that she is having an affair.
Is this normal? Is this the anger that the EA has been outed and now she is moving onto hating on me again?
M=37 W=40 Married=10,T=12 D=10 D=8 WAW Bomb=1/12 EA confirmed=1/13 EA exposed=1/27 Current In house separation
W is so worried about the possibility of her friends finding out our "dirty laundry" "everyone will think that i'm cheating on you, they will not understand" she is more worried about how others view her than my feelings(this has been the case for years)
anyone she tells is "we are splitting up." that's it. i understand that she only says that because it's easy.
she says that she does not talk bad about me to anyone. and i said if it's the truth go ahead.
i can't be wrong for telling the truth, how is it that she thinks that is so bad?
M=37 W=40 Married=10,T=12 D=10 D=8 WAW Bomb=1/12 EA confirmed=1/13 EA exposed=1/27 Current In house separation
Watching the W huff around the house moving her clothes out of my(marital room). She is hurt because I told one of my friends that the stitches on my face were from the phone she threw, and that she was having communication with OM. And that I told her to leave or I was telling all of her friends what she was doing.
He is my fried, but his wife is her friend and our kids go to the same school and she is scared that a rumor will be flying around that she is having an affair.
Is this normal? Is this the anger that the EA has been outed and now she is moving onto hating on me again?
Who cares? You're no longer operating from a basis of "what angers her," but rather "What is The Right Thing To Do?" Remember?
Tell her: "I realize this must be difficult for you, having them know that, but I have decided that I am no longer willing to lie to cover up your affair."
