FM SAID: I'm sorry you're going through that too. I see what you mean. I hate being financially dependent on H. It's been a huge trust issue to be in this situation (due to parenting responsibilities and choices) and my trust has been violated (ie I never would have allowed myself to become financially dependent if I thought that our M was on such shaky ground).
YES!!! THIS is what they don't get. The trust violation that has occurred in relation to the financial entanglement has HUGE consequences for the LBS.
