I've hit a wall.. Now what?

[pearlharbr]

I totally disagree with flowmom. Do NOT send flowers. As far as you know H is still having an affair with OW. Any pursuit right now is bad. Why would you chase after a cheater and liar?

TTA is right on the money: you have to put yourself first because no one else will.

Have you read Dobson's book Love Must Be Tough? As much as I dislike him and his organization I found the book to be very helpful.

I know you want to save your M. But do you really want to be M to the man your H is currently? Because unless he shows you that he is willing to work on himself that is the man you will get.

If you don't feel like you're up to meeting with H then don't do it. You can correspond via email. Plus it's still weeks away so there's no use in getting all worked up over it now. We'll help you get through it no matter what you decide. Just know that you can handle it.

Good news on the budget front! Yay!

Oh, and I forgot to mention that if you're going to be in/near Denver when you come to CO in the spring I'd be happy to meet up if you're up for it.