You have not done the work on you therefore the R would eventually contain the same destructive elements that caused the demise the first time around. The LBS that does the work simply to "attract" their WAS back will fail each time. The work must be authentic and genuine and for you and YOU only. You have NO control over your WAS. The work is for you and becoming the best person you can be so your present and future is wonderful either way. You have not even mastered the basic skill set of validation, listening, no pursuit and setting boundaries.
Amen!
nsw, from where I sit, you continually ask, "what should I do?", get the same sage advice from everyone and then respond with, "What should I do?"
Pick ONE DB action ad DO it. Until it is automatically incorporated into your repertoire. Then pick another. Wash. Rinse. Repeat.
And, frankly, Man Up.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
