feel like giving up - talk to me!

[S.T. _I Made It!]

guys, it's not just that he's trying to look like the good guy. He's only focused on himself right now because he can only see/feel the hurt that HE has. He can't focus on what he is doing to everyone else.

this is why we call them aliens, or they are in a fog, or their head is in the sand, whatever. They are not thinking realistically, and it's like they are mentally sick.

so, luv. can you say that at least 20% of your M was good? even 5%? I remember reading somewhere, that even only having 5% of your whole marriage being good, does not mean there is no hope.

So, anyways, here is what you said

I'm going to avoid any negative activity at all costs!

do this do this do this!!!! make some plans now, and be excited about them. be almost giddy around the house, don't let his unhappiness change you. whenever he is negative, then just imagine something crazy, or respond with something positive instead. Or if he calls you a name, like a b**ch, then pretend he said beautiful. anything to not let you go down his road.

my H was exactly like your H is doing. just don't worry about what he's doing now, and just follow your goal to saving YOU.

and yes, G is right, you need to list something that is fun for you. what hobbies do you have, or havent done in years, do something different for yourself,.. do you fix up, do your makeup, where cute clothes?